You need to get lame > v3.90 installed first.
libmp3lame.so is searched in /usr/local/lib
( no time to write configure scripts ).
if it's installed elsewhere, change the Makefile,
you won't die from that.
untar in /my/pd/dir/externs
cd /my/pd/dir/externs/mp3write~
make
make install
you're set !!